I have been blessed with opportunity to have a career, which I have a great passion for.  I am in a great place mentally, professionally, physically and spiritually however, my personal life has not been as successful since my transition 2 years ago.   This leads me to share my story about finding your niche.

I remember past experiences when I went through struggles such as working a job I strongly disliked, being enrolled in a college class that I did not want to be in or having to obey my parent’s rules which went against my personal preference haha!  In all of the situations I listed I have 2 options, I could both complain and become rebellious or I can find my “niche” and make the best out of the situation at hand.

A niche is a place or position suitable or appropriate for a person.  As I stated before I am excelling mentally, professionally, physically and spiritually however I am struggling in my personal life.  Balance is key in order to create harmony and peace within, therefore I am not balanced because my personal life is lacking.  This has really impacted my life over the last 2 years, at times I have become angered, frustrated and sadden by my inability to create the perfect balance in my life.  Finally, I learned getting upset will not change my personal life but will enforce the feeling even more causing a wave of negative energy.  Instead I have found my niche, which has helped me become successful in my personal life.  I enjoy being in relationships and creating relationships, therefore being a mentor and providing a service for students one must be engaged in multiple relationships with people of all walks of life.   These relationships have temporarily filled the void that once was vacant.

There is a little bit of good in everything and always something positive in every negative.  With that said despite your condition find your “niche” the place where you fit in or is appropriate for you.  Once this is accomplished one will find joy and/or positive energy in whatever it is they do no matter their current status.

Since I have applied this theory to my life I have been able to cope with my personal life and am currently in a more peaceful place than I had been in the past 2 years.

Find what makes you happy and “get in where you fit in”


5/19/2011 11:48:40 pm

Great post D.R. Out of the 3 you posted this week I think I like this one the best. or at least this one relates to how I'm feeling at the time the best. If you're anything like me then you've probably had people tell you "you can't do this" or "you shouldn't do that" or "why not take that job". Stuff like that. What I've noticed is that whatever you do, your true feelings will eventually surface. And if your not happy then it just throws off everything else in your life. I held a job last year working with children with mental health issues, that paid pretty good. I felt like I was making a difference which was great, but I wasn't happy. So I agree when you say you need to find your own "Niche" and a situation that works all around as far as career goals, impact on the world, and the social aspect as well. because whats the point of doing something if you can't enjoy it. Thats like eating cake with no taste buds.

5/20/2011 12:47:09 am

Thank P,

I am glad you could relate to my "thought" I realized you have to make the best out of every situation you are put in no matter good or bad. There is always something positive planted in every experinece however you just need to find that seed and sometimes thats the hard part. "You have to get in where you fit in"


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