My story is about something I have been experiencing for last 9 years or so and did not realize it until a recent conversation I had with a role model of mine.

Peer pressure refers to the influence exerted by a peer group in encouraging a person to change his or her attitudesvalues, or behavior in order to conform to group norms.   Most of the time when you think of peer pressure you make think of a negative experience however peer pressure can be very positive. 

All my life I have been a competitor no matter what the task sports, education, money, work etc. with that being said I have found my self challenging people in my profession on a respectful and professional manner.  Recently I have been going head to head with the co-advisor of MALES who is a good friend of mine however, he gets recognized on a national level for his work and it is an honor to work with him, however I do not receive the same recognition for my work., to me that sounds like a challenge!

Since realizing this I find my self making attempts to be BETTER than him, which in turn creates a unique dynamic of a positive driving force relationship between the two of us because now he does not want to fall off his game to me and I am pushing him to be BETTER which makes me BETTER.  This competition is not know publicly it only exist between me and the person involved and at times the person may not be aware which I have experienced as well.  Seeing as I have been pushing the envelope and attempting to be BETTER I have been recognized on the University level with a recent award, divisional presentation, serving on committees, professional development and currently pursuing the opportunity to present on a Regional/National level.

Being competitive can be looked upon as a negative characteristic to some people.  In this case I am able to take a trait/characteristic, which is viewed, as negative and channel it to be positive like Akil stated in “You Against the World” I think this is possible with just about any negative trait: argumentative/lawyer, like to gossip/talk show host, humor/comedian you get the idea…

My parents never picked out my friends for me and that taught me a great lesson, which I had to learn myself and that was not everyone who enters your life is meant to be in your life…I had to learn this the hard way.  Like Akil said if I cannot benefit from you being my friend there is no need for the relationship to exist.

In closing if you want to make a difference hang with who make a difference, you want to make big money hang with people who make big money…its quite simple think about it this way when you want to have a good time, you hang with people who know how to have a good time.  The same goes for what you want in life…Who is in your company?

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4/20/2011 10:07:14 pm

I am very please at you for this post. So many people take offense to the way I look at things as far as the "if I don't need you, get out of my life" approach. You were able to write it in a way that I never would have been able to. It's good to see that you have the same concept as me. I also like the comparisons about strengths and careers and how to look at skill sets as positives. I think this was one of your best post and I hope the world shows you love on this one. I also liked ow you talked about going head to head with the other director, but in a way where you weren't using your envy as a negative against him. Rather as an energy source to motivate yourself. So many people get jealous which is normal but to turn jealously into personal hatred is so wrong. GREAT FREAKING POST BRO

4/21/2011 07:07:34 am

I like this. I never really think about it this way but it reminds me of the relationship I have with my best friend. She is always doing great things and it pushes me to be great. I always support her in her accomplishments and she supports me in mine.

4/21/2011 10:41:44 am

Thank you both Jamica and Akil. This post was inspired from a story by Akil which really hit home with me... I am glad you were both able to relate to "who is in your company" Thank you again for sharing your thoughts I appreciate it.

4/23/2011 03:07:09 pm



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